Winning Wedding Vows

You and your fiancé have decided to write your own wedding vows - how romantic. But now you’re stuck, really stuck. You don’t have the slightest idea what to write and wish you hadn’t agreed on doing so; you would like to claim temporary insanity brought on by a bite from the love bug. It can feel like a daunting task, but so long as you have somewhat of a plan it’s really not so hard. Before grabbing your pen and paper, be sure to get clearance from your wedding’s officiant. Certain religious congregations and officiants require a recitation of all or part of traditional vows. Once you have clearance, make sure you and your fiancé are on the same page with how the vows will be written and create an outline. After the details are situated, it’s time to pick up a piece of paper and let your words begin to dance.

Now it’s time to figure out the tone of your vows. It’s alright to add humour into them, but remember that vows are promises made to your love. You don’t want to turn your wedding into a big joke. You do not have to be eloquent or use large words; simply speak from your heart. It often helps to brainstorm emotions that come up when thinking of your fiancé. Write down any words or phrases that make you think of your to-be spouse. But don’t try to write your vows in a single day. You can elaborate on them later, but for starters you just need a rough outline. Sleep on what you are able to come up with and you might randomly think of something to add or change.

After you’ve thought about what you might like to say, research poems or romantic quotes that you can add into your vows. Reminisce about the fond memories you have had with your fiancé and add little snippets into your writing. It can also be helpful to read some sample vows to find inspiration. Often times you can find something that you hadn’t otherwise thought of and edit it to suit your style more appropriately. But be sure to express your heart in all that you add into your vows. Don’t make them sound robotic or forced. And keep from writing a novel, don’t get carried away; guests don’t care to hear every tiny detail of each moment from the day you met your fiancé to the wedding date. Keep vows, short, sweet, true, and to the point.

Before your special day comes, be sure to rehearse several times on your own. Then go to a close friend or family member and ask for any feedback they might have. It is always helpful to receive guidance beforehand from an outsider. No matter how many times you recite them beforehand, you may choke up when it comes to that time and you don’t want to embarrass yourself. So be sure to have a copy of your vows handy, just in case. And don’t forget to keep a copy as a keepsake. Once it’s time to pour your heart out, relax. It’s normal to feel nervous or overwhelmed. But take a deep breath and share your feelings and love for your partner. It will be a time neither one of you forget.

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Andrea Boley is a writer and blogger with http://storkie.com. She has been writing articles and blogging for over 10 years and is always happy to share her passion for life and experiences through her work. Her educational backgrounds in psychology and journalism have given her a solid foundation from which to draw experience and expertise in an array of topics.